In support of Mr. L C Goldman’s recent NDN Community Contributor Article

Steve DeFillippo’s Point of View

In support of Mr. L C Goldman’s recent NDN Community Contributor Article on grandchildren’s lost art of communicating which was attacked by irate grandmothers, I wrote to him giving my full support as I see it.

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Mr. Goldman there is no need to apologize. I believe that you were correct in your assessment of today’s grandchildren.

What grandmothers did not say to you is that the way they get their granddaughters to speak to them is for the grandmother to aggressively pursue them, so that their granddaughters speak to them.

I think your point was that unless grandparents take the initiative, grandparents are a forgotten part of a family; and that is a shame. But it should not be forced, it must be taught.

Grandparents have so much experience and guidance to offer grandchildren that it could only embellish their respective lives.

Hopefully, parents will encourage their children to spend some time with their grandparents and share life experiences together, in person, rather than just talk.

A Grandfather,
Steve DeFillippo

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As birds of a feather do, I offered similar views as expressed in my Letter to the Editor, circa December 2006, and printed herewith.

Jeff Lytle, NDN Editor

Recently a parent of a teenage daughter voiced the classical parental concerns about girls pre-occupation with boys and vice versa. His concern was fortified with a plan to be very strict with the daughter to assure that no one got into life-changing trouble.

One thing that young parents need to understand is that we can learn a lot from history, if they only take the time.

Even though a child professes to love their parents with their heart and soul, history dictates that peer approval and pressure has always been so strong that it will override the parent’s guidance.

Parents are at the bottom of an inverse pyramid, where the weight of the peer group is at the top, and is so powerful and heavy that it will crush the best intentions of parents. When you add the uncensored music, risqué TV, movies and provocative fashions coupled with teen celebrities that are on a moral decline; the parents are virtually helpless.

Is there a panacea? No; but perhaps mitigating measures may be a compromise to preserve the teen/parent relationship and provide family harmony.

Religious associations sponsor youth groups that foster a morally active life style that include family religious services aimed at teens, specifically. They also provide teen activities like dances, sports and trips that promote fun for teens but in a more morally selective environment.

What better time is there for both parents to embark on a teenage plan that is as auspicious as the season of Christmas?

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