Heart to Heart: Still overcoming the loss of a 30-year-old daughter

Dear Laurie,

My 30-year-old daughter died a couple of years ago and I’m having a difficult time right now. I do believe it was her time to go back home, but I’m wondering what your thoughts are on death?



Dear Karen,

I’m so sorry for your loss! You are in my prayers! When I was 34, my mom passed away in my arms, so I understand the feeling of a strong sense of loss. You are asking me for my opinion which may not be yours, so please take from this what feels good to you.

From my perspective, our deceased loved ones are in a place of love; they are healthy now, healed and happy. And they see things clearer, with a higher perspective and a greater understanding of what their life purpose was and how they have grown through particular experiences, how their energy affected others, and how they got “stuck in their own way.”

Karen, I choose to believe that when we leave earth we enter a place of unconditional love, goodness, beauty and in this energy our loved ones remember their wholeness and divinity. They are not sick anymore. I feel they don’t hold onto their strong grievances because they are not taking things personally anymore. They are learning how they had such a positive impact on the world, people around them, how their words and actions helped people in such a positive way and they weren’t even aware of this while living here on earth. They also learn how they were much more powerful that than even realized too!

I also believe they want us to be happy and they have the ability to send loving energy to us. Many people have shared with me that when they see particular things such as butterflies or hummingbirds, it’s their sign that loved ones are close by. It’s their way of staying close and connecting to their energy. I do believe our loved ones can hear us and sense our emotional state. Love doesn’t ever go away.

They want us to continue on our life path. They came to earth as individuals with their own divine path, purpose and lessons, and when it was time for them to leave, they do so. But, they are in a loving and peaceful place now. And, as they leave, we are learning about love, letting go, detaching, grieving, prioritizing what really matters, starting over, and living in the moment. We become raw, vulnerable and connected to our heart. And, we have more compassion to give to others.

I have learned to live in a place of love and gratitude and not take anything or anyone for granted. Appreciate the beautiful memories with gratitude and trust everything is in divine order. May you feel peace now and forever!

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Laurie Martin is a national speaker in the arena of self-love and empowerment. As a professional speaker, certified life coach, author, advice columnist and radio host, she shares her passion and knowledge guiding others to tap into their own inspiration. She is the author of “Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-Love.” For more info, log onto her website at www.SmileAcrossYourHeart.com or email Laurie questions at LaurieM@SmileAcrossYourHeart.com.

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