Mind Matters: Who we are; who we pretend to be
Published 12/4/2007 at 1:42 p.m. 0 comments
What roles do you play in life? How do you wish to be perceived and are you successful in conveying this image? Although these questions may sound strange, the truth is most of us unknowingly play roles every day. We ...
Mind Matters: Power is control-free
Published 11/27/2007 at 12:55 p.m. 0 comments
Today’s topic concerns power — personal power. We tend to confuse power with control, a confusion that shows up in relationships as conflict. After the romance wanes we still want to feel special, but have forgotten about the sweet little ...
Mind Matters: Addiction is in the brain
Published 11/20/2007 at 11:32 a.m. 0 comments
This past week, through a stroke of luck I was privileged to participate in a program at the Hanley Center in West Palm Beach. In the belief that it may be helpful to some readers, I would like to share ...
Mind Matters: Understanding the past to heal the present
Published 11/13/2007 at 3:45 p.m. 0 comments
We live in a harsh world. It’s appalling how many of us grow up in families where tolerance, understanding and compassion are missing. I decided to write about this with the hope that it might inspire deeper levels of understanding ...
Mind Matters: It’s not over ‘til it’s over
Published 11/5/2007 at 11:32 a.m. 0 comments
Anyone who is elderly and lives alone faces a special set of challenges, beginning with health issues. Physical and mental health should be priorities. Let’s begin with physical health which is a very basic need but one that for most ...
Mind Matters: A topic you won’t regret reading about
Published 10/29/2007 at 12:29 p.m. 0 comments
What does one do about a life of regret, a life not fully lived, thwarted by fear, circumstance or victimization? To look back and see from the wisdom of years a big stretch of wasted time is a very painful ...
Mind Matters: Allowing your children an allowance may become a life lesson
Published 10/22/2007 at 8:35 p.m. 0 comments
Money management comes naturally to a chosen few; the remainder must learn either from books or the school of hard knocks.
Mind Matters: Life doesn’t begin at 65
Published 10/8/2007 at 1:12 p.m. 0 comments
In our society one of the most long awaited and anticipated life events is retirement. Countless individuals toil for years in work for which they have no passion, counting down the years and months with only a vision of a ...
Mind Matters: Reignite love with just a few minutes a day
Published 10/1/2007 at 12:17 p.m. 0 comments
All relationships are different. We have casual friends, those we occasionally have lunch with or telephone conversations. We don’t consider them special; we like them but they haven’t burrowed their way into our hearts. We share certain issues but don’t ...
Mind Matters: The reptilian brain: Memories the body holds
Published 9/24/2007 at 2:10 p.m. 0 comments
Current research has demonstrated that the body holds memories. Some cells, if not all, are capable of carrying memory of long forgotten events. Many lie in the so-called reptilian brain, neurological source of the breathing apparatus and fight or flight ...
Mind Matters: Childhood experiences and the adults we became
Published 9/17/2007 at 11:09 a.m. 0 comments
Today I would like to offer an explanation of a process. The means by which neglect or abuse in childhood comes to affect our adult lives.
Mind Matters: Emotional problems are nothing to be ashamed of
Published 9/10/2007 at 9:48 a.m. 0 comments
Mental illness manifests in numerous ways, depending on the person, situation, degree of severity and diagnosis. A modest assessment is that at least 10 percent of the population will at some time experience a form of emotional disturbance or mental ...
Mind Matters: Cleaning out the emotional closet
Published 9/3/2007 at 7:35 p.m. 0 comments
If you’re in a relationship and find that certain issues never fail to set you off it may be time to wonder why. According to Harville Hendrix, nationally known marriage therapist and writer of Getting the Love You Want, the ...
Mind Matters: Defense mechanisms can cover up the problem
Published 8/27/2007 at 11:22 a.m. 0 comments
Many of us struggle with emotional fragility, a hidden reality we try to mask by various defenses designed to fool everyone including self. A major thrust of any form of psychotherapy or counseling is to uncover these psychological defense mechanisms. ...
Mind Matters: Get down to the heart of the matter
Published 8/13/2007 at 10:22 a.m. 0 comments
According to the lyrics of a song popularized by Eddie Fisher decades ago, “You’ve gotta have heart, miles and miles and miles of heart.” We’re all born with heart but learn to hide it to protect ourselves from the effects ...