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Ethics & Civility: Life after high school — are they prepared?
Published 04/06/2008 at 9:51 p.m.
Most parents are so busy making sure all of their children are getting to school and completing their assignments that some fail to think about what is going to happen to them once they complete high school.
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Ethics & Civility: Screening your children’s movies
Published 03/30/2008 at 10:14 p.m.
Most parents feel safe when their children watch “G” and “PG” rated films. A recent study published in the January 2008 issue of Pediatrics looked at 2,499 children between the ages of 9 and 12 years of age in New ...
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Ethics & Civility: Don’t push your own guilt buttons — nor let your adult children do so
Published 03/25/2008 at 10:37 a.m.
Over 32 years working in this field, I have a common question from parents of adult children, “When will my children be old enough that we don’t need to worry about them anymore?”
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Ethics & Civility: Speak so your children will listen
Published 03/18/2008 at 11:25 a.m.
Are you a frustrated parent? Are you tired of talking to your child and not getting a response? You are not alone. Many parents are experiencing this similar problem. This is not a new problem; parents have experienced this problem ...
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Ethics & Civility: Ideas for coping with a loved one who has signs of dementia
Published 03/11/2008 at 12:04 a.m.
I recently came across a book written by Jacqueline Marcell entitled “Elder Rage or Take My Father … Please!” This is a very interesting and well written book about how she cared for her frail mother and her rebellious 85-year ...
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Ethics & Civility: Help your child cope with anger
Published 03/03/2008 at 1:34 p.m.
Most parents are very frustrated by their children’s anger. They are concerned as to why their children tend to be so angry and they don’t understand the anger.
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Ethics & Civility: Coping with sibling rivalry
Published 02/25/2008 at 4:22 p.m.
Many years ago when my children were young I used to think there was something wrong with my family. I didn’t understand why they were fighting so much (Back then, I was not a counselor and did not have the ...
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Ethics & Civility: The family is deeply affected by alcohol and drug abuse
Published 02/18/2008 at 12:33 p.m.
When alcoholism became recognized as a disease, treatment programs started to include addressing the problems of the family members of an alcoholic or substance abuser as well as the alcoholic or substance abuser. Unfortunately, prior to this time, the treatment ...
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Ethics & Civility: Valentine’s Day — never too late for romance
Published 02/11/2008 at 7:57 p.m.
Valentine’s Day is a day to remember your love and to express your love for your loved one. Yes, in the above sentence, I just said ‘to remember your love and to express your love for your loved one’.
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Ethics & Civility: The healing process of depression
Published 02/05/2008 at midnight
Quite often when people come into my office experiencing depression, they are quite upset with themselves because they feel they don’t have any reason to be depressed. Unfortunately, this thought hinders their healing process.
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Ethics & Civility: Understanding depression can lead to healing
Published 01/28/2008 at 5:40 p.m.
Depression is a confusing issue for some people. This is a topic that is close to my heart because 18 years ago, the executive director of the Mental Health Association of Collier County approached me to facilitate a depression group ...
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Ethics & Civility: Mutual respect builds a happy marriage
Published 01/15/2008 at 1:31 p.m.
It’s not easy to build and maintain a happy and satisfying marriage. We know this from statistics which indicate that approximately 50 percent of first marriages and over 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.
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Ethics & Civility: Respecting your teen’s opinions
Published 01/07/2008 at 4:38 p.m.
While we adults did not agree with everything our parents believed and did when we were young, we respected their opinions and we were grateful if and when they respected ours.
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Ethics and Civility: Five steps to your mental health
Published 01/01/2008 at 10:07 p.m.
I pondered what to write for my first column of 2008 and decided on some positive steps you can do to keep yourself mentally healthy.
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Ethics & Civility: Subconscious resolutions for the New Year
Published 12/21/2007 at 12:58 p.m.
New Year’s Eve has always been the time of the year when people seem to make their resolutions concerning what they will do differently in the next year.
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Ethics & Civility: At peace and safe for the holidays
Published 12/17/2007 at 10:31 a.m.
We are less than a week away from Christmas and much has been happening in many different households. Some have completed their shopping and are busy finalizing plans for the holidays.
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Ethics & Civility: True Christmas gifts for your children: The joy of giving
Published 12/10/2007 at 1:29 p.m.
This is the time of the year when normally everyone is busy scurrying about purchasing gifts for their loved ones. For many people though, this year has been dampened by the drop in economy so this is not a very ...
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Ethics & Civility: Self-discovery journeys to find true love
Published 12/03/2007 at 2:47 p.m.
One of the questions I am asked quite frequently is, “Why do people stay in relationships even when there is verbal, emotional and physical abuse?”
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Ethics & Civility: Qualities for a healthy relationship
Published 11/27/2007 at 1:32 p.m.
How do you know if your relationship is healthy? For over 30 years I have seen people come in ready to leave their first, second or third marriage. Most of them believed they had a healthy relationship in the beginning. ...
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Ethics & Civility: Be thankful, positive
Published 11/20/2007 at 3:49 p.m.
Thanksgiving Day originated nearly four centuries ago when the pilgrims dedicated a day for thanking God for the bounty He had given them. They had begun their journey from Southampton, England in August of 1620 with 103 passengers. They had ...
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Ethics & Civility: For game’s sake! Let your child play
Published 11/13/2007 at 11:46 a.m.
It is great to see parents interested in their children and in their children’s after school activities. It seems a majority of these parents are very enthusiastic about having them involved in sports.
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Ethics & Civility: Coaching children may get them off the couch — on with their goals
Published 11/05/2007 at 2:27 p.m.
Parents want their children to have a satisfactory career in the future, however many are confused as to how they can provide the guidance for their children.
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Ethics & Civility: Slow steps to becoming the stepparent
Published 10/29/2007 at 11:17 a.m.
Becoming a stepparent is not an easy move. I know. I was there nearly 30 years ago. Back then, there was very little known about the stepfamily situation. People used to think it was just another way of forming a ...
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Ethics & Civility: Are you accepting of your children?
Published 10/22/2007 at 8:21 p.m.
Many families come into my office. These are families that want the very best for their children. When I speak with the parents alone, I ask them if they are accepting of their child. The normal response I receive is, ...
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Ethics & Civility: Male menopause — How can a woman help?
Published 10/15/2007 at 10:15 a.m.
Some of you may be wondering, male menopause? How can that be? Naturally, men cannot have menopause like women, but many men over the age of 35 or so do have the male equivalent called andropause, which has many of ...
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Ethics & Civility: Intimacy in a marriage
Published 10/08/2007 at 2:32 p.m.
Intimacy in a relationship is the “true jewel” each person searches and struggles to obtain. Unfortunately, many people do not have a clear knowledge of exactly what they are looking for. Thus, they are blindly searching for it in the ...
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Ethics & Civility: Household chores for children
Published 10/01/2007 at 11:58 a.m.
Last week I was inspired to write about sibling rivalry due to the television interview on the Today show of the parents who had 17 children and how well those children respected and appreciated each other.
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Ethics & Civility: Help your child cope with sibling rivalry
Published 09/24/2007 at 2:32 p.m.
I was inspired to write this column as a result of a few minutes of an interview I saw on the Today show this past week. On that day, they interviewed a husband and wife who had 17 children. I ...
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Ethics & Civility: Help your child recognize their anxieties
Published 09/17/2007 at 10:32 a.m.
This may seem strange to you, but one of the most common problems of childhood is anxiety. On the other hand, it’s one of the least recognized problems.
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Ethics & Civility: Take charge of your worries
Published 09/10/2007 at 2:48 p.m.
It’s not unusual to worry at times. All of us have been worried about something and conveyed our worries to a family member or friend and were told, “Don’t worry.”
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Ethics & Civility: Are we enabling our children?
Published 09/03/2007 at 7:49 p.m.
I am sure I’ve mentioned in previous columns my concern about how much parents are giving materially to their children and in turn what children are expecting from their parents, and, in the future, from society. It’s a little frightening, ...
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Ethics & Civility: The painful influence of rejection
Published 08/27/2007 at 10:20 a.m.
I doubt there is anyone who hasn’t been hurt by rejection. Even when it is not personal, there is still a sting to it. Yes, rejection can be emotionally painful because of the social nature of human beings and our ...
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Ethics & Civility: Help your children get started with good study habits
Published 08/20/2007 at 12:28 p.m.
School has begun this week and many children are excited about the beginning of this new school year. For some, it may be the anxiety of the first time beginning a full day of school. For others, it may be ...
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Ethics & Civility: Negative thinking can cripple your spirit
Published 08/13/2007 at 12:22 p.m. 2 Comments
It’s human nature to complain. Everyone does it to some extent. However, the key comes by looking at how much you are complaining and how much you are focusing in the negative.
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Ethics & Civility: Parents, prepare your children for the beginning of school
Published 08/06/2007 at 12:44 p.m.
Summer is a pleasurable and fun time for children and for parents alike. It gives both a chance to get out of the hectic daily school day routine.
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Ethics & Civility: Help! I want to get off the roller coaster!
Published 07/30/2007 at 12:42 p.m.
Each day our world seems to be moving faster. Many, many years ago, when television first came out, there were only a few channels available. Now, there are hundreds of channels from which to choose. Then we became inundated by ...
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Ethics & Civility: Reframe your view of your marital differences
Published 07/23/2007 at 10:48 a.m.
It has been my experience that most couples view their marital differences as a negative experience. Some couples have expressed their arguments as being so stressful they didn’t feel they had the energy to continue. Others related if my spouse ...
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Ethics & Civility: Practice forgiveness in your parenting
Published 07/16/2007 at 11:15 a.m.
I have received many comments regarding my column several weeks ago on ‘Living without regret means practicing forgiveness.’ Quite a few have also requested I address this issue again in relating it specifically to parenting. So, I have decided to ...
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Ethics & Civility: It’s healthy to set personal boundaries in a relationship
Published 07/09/2007 at 11:40 a.m. 1 Comment
Quite frequently the question comes up, ‘So what does it take to make a relationship successful?’ This is a complex question, and difficult to answer in the brevity of this column. However, I will address one aspect of it today.
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Ethics & Civility: Living without regret means practicing forgiveness
Published 07/02/2007 at 6:44 p.m.
How many times have we spoken of a regret? Think about it. I have been here 18 years and if only I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say, “I wish I had invested in a piece ...
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Ethics & Civility: Sustaining your marriage through the golden years
Published 06/25/2007 at 7:45 p.m.
Over time, while providing counseling, I have witnessed many couples who have been married 35 to 40 years. Most of them have also successfully raised several children. It seems strange to them that they found themselves sitting in my office.
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Ethics & Civility: Forgiveness — a key ingredient for every marriage
Published 06/18/2007 at 7:07 p.m.
Over the years, I have seen many married people confused about the idea of forgiving their partner. They acknowledge having feelings of hate, yet believe they should be forgiving. They feel stuck. So, what is the right thing to do?
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Ethics & Civility: Plant the seeds of communication with your teen
Published 06/11/2007 at 10:45 a.m.
It can be very frustrating for a parent when they are trying to communicate with their teen and they barely get more than a three to five word response, if that, from them.
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Ethics & Civility: Thinking beyond ‘I do!’
Published 06/04/2007 at 9:40 a.m.
This is the time of year when many couples are exchanging their vows, promising to love each other forever! However, with the high percentages of divorce, I believe people need to take caution beyond the words, ‘I do!’
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Carolyn Katchmar: Grandparents be respectful of your adult children
Published 05/28/2007 at 8:28 p.m.
What a joy to be a grandparent! We know men are very proud to be grandfathers and are busting their buttons about those grandchildren. However, we normally hear more about the grandmothers — talking and bragging and showing pictures of ...
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Help for the grieving aged
Published 05/21/2007 at 4:57 p.m.
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Caregivers -- care for yourselves
Published 05/14/2007 at 8:22 p.m.
Caregivers should care about themselves as much as they do their valued friends.
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Ethics & Civility: Premarital counseling: A great gift for engaged couples
Published 05/07/2007 at 11:30 a.m.
Premarital counseling can better prepare a couple for some of the potential detours and rough roads they may encounter. Many couples I counsel say they wish that they could have taken some before they were married to learn what they ...
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Ethics & Civility: Denial — A barricade to happiness
Published 04/30/2007 at 11:05 a.m.
We all have something in common. We all want to be happy. However, some of us are confused by what being happy means.
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Ethics & Civility: The ambivalence of giving your car keys to your teen
Published 04/23/2007 at 1:07 p.m.
Most parents experience mixed emotions as their adolescents near the age of acquiring a driver’s license. Be assured, your teen has been looking forward to this day for a long time.
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