Marco Island is not free from domestic violence epidemic, area shelter reports
Marco Island is not free from the domestic violence that harms one in every three women across U.S., according to the chief executive officer of The Shelter for Abused Women & Children.
"Domestic violence is a national epidemic in our country but is also an epidemic in our community," Linda Oberhaus said at a recent Marco City Council meeting after the council proclaimed October 2019 as Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
In Collier County there were 1,611 domestic violence incidents last year, according to Collier County Sheriff's Office. Out of those incidents, 91 or 5.6 percent were in Marco Island.
"You can only imagine the real number of incidents in our community given the stats that only about half of all victims ever call 911 for help," Oberhaus said. "People didn't want to believe that domestic violence was an issue here on the island in particular."
"So the (data) really does demonstrates that domestic violence crosses all boundaries and is literally occurring all over our community."
The Shelter serves an average of 1,700 victims each year, according to Oberhaus. Of those, it served four Marco Island residents in fiscal year 2018 and three so far in the fiscal year 2019 that began on July 1.
Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship, according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (NDVH). Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim or perpetrator.
"The reality is no one would ever date someone who hit them on their first date or the second date, that's not how domestic violence works," Oberhaus said. "Perpetrators of domestic violence tend to show one face in the beginning of the relationship and then another later on."
"It's a progression that happens throughout the relationship, a progression of power and control. It's a progression of intimidation and threats but it's something that happens very slowly."
In Florida there were 104,914 reported domestic violence offenses in 2018, according to Florida Department of Law Enforcement (FDLE). The domestic violence crime rate per 100,000 people was 503.4. In 2017, there were 106,979 offenses, a rate of 522.3.
The rate of domestic violence offenses has decreased by 43.4 percent from 1998 to 2018.
Collier County reported 1,598 domestic violence offenses last year, rating it the 43rd Florida county with the worst domestic violence offense rate out of 67 counties. Collier's rate, as well as Lee County's, is below the rate of Florida.
The top domestic violence offense in Collier last year was simple assault with 1,227 offenses, according to FDLE data. The agency defines simple assault as an unlawful physical attack where neither the offender displays a weapon nor the victim suffers obvious severe or aggravated bodily injury.
Collier registered 265 aggravated assaults, 41 forcible rapes, 32 threats, 29 forcible fondling, three murders and one stalking incident in 2018. The county did not report any manslaughter or aggravated stalking offenses connected to domestic violence.
Domestic violence does not always involve physical or sexual violence, according to Oberhaus. Using economic abuse is another way perpetrators can exploit their partners.
"It could be an affluent couple where the abuser will only give their partner access to a very small amount of money," Oberhaus said. "It actually limits that person's ability to be able to escape that relationship"
Oberhaus also said the majority of domestic violence cases she sees involve isolation as a method of abuse.
"The abuser in the relationship will not want their partner to continue seeing their best friends, their family members, even their own parents," Oberhaus said. "It will become so confrontational every time that person wants to see a friend or a family member that finally the victims tend to just give up."
"Isolation is a key tactic in being able to have complete power and control over the person you are in the relationship with."
In some cases the abuser will move the victim out of town, city or even the state where they physically no longer have access to family and friends, according to Oberhaus.
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The Shelter, located in an undisclosed facility in Naples, provides a 24-hour crisis hotline, emergency shelter with onsite kennel for family pets, legal assistance and a daycare for the children of survivors and employees. Other services include community and school education, transitional living and an economic empowerment program that offers financial health training and resume writing.
Oberhaus said leaving an abuser is not easy for survivors and that having an exit strategy is essential for their safety because many domestic violence victims are at much greater risk for domestic violence homicide after admitting they want to leave or want a divorce.
"Friends and family have to recognize that leaving this type of relationship is a process not an an event," Oberhaus said. "We shouldn't encourage victims to leave before calling the crisis hotline to make a safety emergency plan."
Oberhaus said that anyone who witnesses domestic violence in action should call 911 immediately.
"If you see something, say something," Oberhaus said. "Domestic violence is not a family matter, it is a crime."
List of resources for domestic violence survivors
- The Shelter for Abused Women & Children 24/7 hotline: (239) 775-1101, toll free (800) 962-2873, (239) 775-4265 (TTY/TTD), www.naplesshelter.org
- Project Help 24/7 crisis helpline: (239) 262-7227, toll free (800) 329-7227, www.projecthelpnaples.org
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-7233, 1-800-787-3224 (TTY), www.thehotline.org
- National Domestic Violence Hotline online chat: sforce.co/2qaiDrH
- Florida Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 500-1119, (800) 621-4202 (TDD)
- Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence: www.fcadv.org